MY family has been hit by some very hard times recently.

My mum died earlier this year and now one of my three brothers has been killed in an accident.

I’m trying hard to remain strong for the sake of my other two brothers, but they keep arguing and getting angry with each other.

I don’t know what to do for the best, but I’m sick of being stuck in the middle and I’m so sad that we can’t pull together at a time like this. R. I.

Fiona says: PEOPLE express their grief in many different ways - anger being one of them.

I suspect your brothers are just as affected as you are by your family tragedies but perhaps, being male, they find it hard to express their emotions.

Instead they are resorting to feuding with each other and you’re bearing the brunt of it.

You need to express your own grief too so, rather than trying to remain strong for them, take time out for yourself and leave them to get on with it.

Hopefully you have someone you can share your feelings with but, if not contact Cruse Bereavement Care (www.cruse.org.uk) who can help you.

MY baby is eight months old and was delivered by caesarean section.

We would like to start trying for another child, but people are giving us conflicting advice and we’re not sure what to do.

My GP said it would be best to wait two years before trying again, but the doctor who delivered my baby said six to nine months was long enough for the womb to heal. I am utterly confused. L.S.

Fiona says: THERE doesn’t seem to be a specific medical consensus on this at all but – and it’s a big but – being pregnant with a very small baby is taxing.

You might be sufficiently healed in order to get pregnant again quickly, but make sure you have a good support network in place so you can rest when you need to.

Perhaps you could speak to your GP again and arrange for a check up at the antenatal section at the hospital where you had your baby?

As long as you have fully recovered, your general health is good and you can get help with the baby you already have, then you’re probably fine to go ahead. - Counsellor FIona Caine