I need a pal to chat to

I’M a single parent with a few issues that get me down from time to time.

There’s nothing particularly serious, but what I really need is someone to talk to who knows what I am going through.

I don’t mean a special friend, just someone I could chat to and share some of the stupid little problems with.

I am quite lonely and the few friends and family I do have are all happily married. Any ideas as to where I could get to know someone who’d understand? - RH

Fiona says: There are a number of groups for single parents around and I’d strongly recommend you consider joining one of these.

Gingerbread (gingerbread.org.uk), for example, has groups throughout the UK, plus an online forum where you can chat to people in the same position.

There are also small local independent groups. Check with your GP or health visitor or at the library.

I've met a younger man

After my divorce, I began to suffer from nerves and depression very badly.

I went to the hospital and they set up a support group for people with depression and anxiety where I met a man who has similar problems.

After one of the meetings, he asked me to go for a drink — which I did, and since he’s given me a lift to the group with him.

I’m pretty sure he likes me, but as I’m a lot older than him (five years), I don’t want to make a fool of myself .- DH

Fiona says: He has shown you that he likes you and, honestly, five years is nothing.

It may be that he doesn’t want to push things with you because he is aware of your issues, and of course he may be nervous about being rejected, especially as he has problems of his own. He may need an indication from you that you’re interested.

With both of you lacking confidence, you could spend a long time trying to second guess one another so take the plunge and invite him in for coffee next time he gives you a lift. Don’t assume, if he refuses, that he’s not interested - he may genuinely have to be somewhere else. Just suggest that maybe you could have coffee next time.