His parents ignore me

ALTHOUGH I’m happily married, my in-laws are really spoiling things.

They were downright rude to just about everybody at our wedding, and completely ignored me. My husband didn’t care as he said they’d always been like that and I shouldn’t take it personally, but that’s easier said than done.

His mother just cuts me off and seems quite content to act as though I don’t exist. It’s really upsetting me and I don’t understand it. - DD

Fiona says: There may be a reason your husband doesn’t want to tell you, or it could be that your in-laws are unpleasant, rude people.

You could ask your husband if he has any idea why they’re continuing to be so rude, but you might find out more if you confront your mother-in-law the next time you see her.

Ask her why she insists on ignoring you and what you have done to cause her to behave as she does. If she doesn’t answer you, I think you should just let it go.

I think I want a divorce

I MARRIED when I was 18 and my husband was 19.

Three years later, I’m so unhappy and am thinking I need to divorce him.

He’s never home and spends all his free time with his mates, either at the pub or playing rugby. I can’t remember the last time we went out together and he seems to be incapable of talking sensibly about our future. It’s like he’s still trying to be a teenager.

My life seems to consist of going to work and coming home to cleaning, cooking and twice weekly sex when he’s not out with his mates. -SS

Fiona says: I cannot help wonder why you and your husband married at all - he’s clearly not ready to settle down.

I would be very cautious about sharing either property or children with him whilst he’s like this. He’s acting very selfishly. If you want to issue him with an ultimatum, it may rebound on you, and he may decide he’s not ready for this relationship.

You have as much right to enjoy yourself as he does though, so perhaps you should cut back on the domestic chores and go out and have fun yourself.