I want to get pregnant

I’m 38 and my husband-to-be is 36. We’re getting married in September and are keen to start a family as soon as possible.

I know I’m going to be an “old” mother so I want to make sure I give myself the best possible chance. What would you suggest I do to prepare for pregnancy?

I feel a bit awkward approaching my doctor about this as he’s quite old fashioned and he knows we’re not married yet. - DK

Fiona says: More and more women are choosing to wait until they’re older before starting a family, so you will be by no means the oldest mother around.

Preconception care is sensible and should apply to your fiance too.

Although you’re reluctant, I really would advise you both to talk to your GP. If you really can’t face talking to him, see if there is a midwife attached to your medical practice or perhaps a practice nurse or health visitor who can advise.

So lonely after moving

I’m a young mum at home with two pre-school children and we’ve just moved house.

We’re miles away from anyone I know and I feel really lonely, but it’s easier for my husband who works long hours.

I’m surrounded by strangers and don’t know how to start breaking down barriers but, at the moment, the only adult I speak to in person is my husband.

I know things will get easier once my daughter starts school but that’s not for over a year - I’ll go crazy if things don’t improve by then.

I wish there was some way to make new friends but, right now, I just wish we’d never moved. - TT

Fiona says: Whilst it is always hard to make the first move, if you want to make new friends, you need to go looking for them.

I don’t know if you still see a health visitor with your young children but, if you do, ask about local mother and toddler groups - there may well be some locally that would welcome you. Your local library may also have information if you ask.

With summer coming on, get out and about and strike up a conversation and see where it leads.