Should I move away

I AM 23 and live at home, have a great job, lots of friends, a great boyfriend and am about to get promoted in a few months’ time.

All in all, I am really happy, but the new job worries me.

It’s at the other end of the country in an area I know nothing about and I’m worried that finding somewhere to live will be difficult and expensive.

My boyfriend says he will visit as often as he can, but I am still scared I will lose contact with everyone I know. -RM

Fiona says: It is perfectly natural to feel afraid and excited by the prospect of a new job, especially one that involves moving to a different area. You have some big decisions to make and you won’t be able to think clearly about these if your mind is in turmoil.

Find out everything there is about the new job, where you will be based and what you will be doing.

Before you make the move, visit the area and investigate social and leisure facilities nearby.

Perhaps you could include a visit to your new place of work while you’re there.

Talk to your boyfriend, friends and family, and share your concerns with them.

Help stop mood swings

FOR the past few months I have been getting some extreme mood swings.

At times, I feel that everything around me is falling apart and I can’t stop crying.

At other times, I scream for no apparent reason at whoever happens to be around me.

Yesterday I slapped my 19-year-old son for telling me I need to see a doctor. - VP

Fiona says: Your son is right. You need to speak to your GP.

You don’t mention how old you are but I am guessing, from the age of your son, you are probably over 40. It is possible your symptoms indicate the onset of the menopause, which can create mood swings.

If this is the case, your GP can suggest possible treatments, including HRT. Homeopathy and acupuncture, diet and exercise can also help.