THE early days of my marriage were incredibly volatile. We both have tempers and would hurl abuse and even objects at one another before making up passionately after a short time.

Over the last two or three years though, things have become increasingly strained. He rarely shows me any affection and most of our time is passed in stony silence.

The thing is though, whenever we go out, he turns on the charm and everyone tells me how lucky I am to have such a handsome, loving husband. If only they knew that once we’re home, we just slip back into our silent ways. I hate it and wish we could go back to the way things were - I was even happier when we were hurling insults and plates than I am now. PL

Fiona says: Have you tried talking to your husband about the state of your marriage? You give no indication that there is any kind of communication between the two of you at the moment and he may be just as unhappy and confused as you are.

He might even agree that all you need to get your marriage back on track is a few choice insults and the odd dinner plate! I suspect, however, that something more will be needed, in which case contact Relate (relate.org.uk) for counselling help.

SINCE I’ve been using inhalers for my asthma I’ve developed a terrible problem with facial hair. It’s not just a little - it’s everywhere, on my chin, cheeks and even just above my lips.
It is so awful and I feel thoroughly depressed, even though I’m in my late 60s and perhaps I shouldn’t care - which seems to be what my doctor thinks.
Is there some way I could have it removed though? Even if I have to pay for it, I have to do something, as this is spoiling my life. LH


Fiona says: I can quite understand why this is getting you down and I’m surprised your doctor isn’t being more sympathetic.
Whether the inhalers are behind the problem or whether it’s more a case of your hormones, I am sure there’s something that can be done.
I think you should speak to your doctor before trying any form of treatment because, until you know the cause, the wrong treatment might just make things worse. If your asthma treatment is responsible, it may be that a change of medication would clear up the problem without further treatment.
If you don’t find your doctor sympathetic though, and are worried about talking to them, ask to see a different doctor as you shouldn’t have to put up with this without help.