Should I get a dog?

I AM in my 80s and have been a widower for over two years.

Although I have many friends, I feel quite alone, especially at nights and would like some company, especially in the evenings for walks, dinner or theatre etc. or just being there!

Some people have suggested I get a dog, but I am in/out quite a lot and feel it would not work. Any suggestions? - GG

Fiona says: YOU don’t really say whether you’re looking for an intimate relationship or whether you simply want company.

If it’s company, I would suggest you consider sharing your home in some way - perhaps a foreign student; perhaps a lodger.

A more intimate relationship might be more difficult as, whilst there may be ladies looking for someone like you, as you get older that becomes more and more unlikely. I would suggest you consider using a respectable dating agency.

Why not consider joining a club or group of some kind - perhaps even a dining or theatre club?

My son won't study properly?

MY SON is 15 and due to take his GCSEs next June, but at a recent school meeting, it became clear he isn’t working as hard as he could and the school are concerned about his grades.

I feel it’s vital for him to do well as the job market is so competitive. I’ve tried to badger him into studying, but all he wants to do is spend time with his friends. I’ve even tried to restrict the days he goes out, but he just lazes about at home listening to music. What can we do? -TS

Fiona says: I CAN understand your anxiety, but if you push him too hard, he may feel there is no point in studying because he’ll never be able to match your expectations of him.

Rather than criticising, try having a discussion where you encourage him to discuss why he is reluctant to study.

Tell him you are not looking for perfection - only that he gives these exams his best shot. After that, stand back a bit more.

The bottom line is, it’s his responsibility and failing some exams now doesn’t mean he can’t do well later.