He keeps cheating

Three years ago, my husband had an affair with another woman, so I left him but, after a couple of months, he persuaded me it was over so I went back.

A few months after that, he was at it again but, when I confronted him, he broke down saying he was so sorry and he knew he’d ruined everything. Although I was angry with him, I managed to forgive him, but now I’ve found a strange number on his phone and, when I called it, found it was another woman. We chatted and it turns out he’d convinced her he was divorced.

I told him to leave, but I still love him and want him - I just can’t trust him anymore. I’ve suggested we go to Relate, but he won’t. GB

Fiona says: How many times has this man got to break his word before you begin to see he is never going to change?

He has hurt you time and again and, in so doing, has managed to completely undermine your self-respect. I know you still have feelings for this man, but you really cannot go on living with this uncertainty - so consider making a clean break.

In love with a woman

Our 19-year-old daughter is a really pretty young woman who has always had plenty of boyfriends and is always much in demand.

It’s come as a real shock, therefore, for her to tell us she’s in love with another woman, a few years older than her.

I’ve tried to keep my feelings under control as I didn’t want her to think I rejected her, but it’s really difficult for me to come to terms with this.

I’d really like to talk to someone who understands.

She says she still finds men attractive, which has just added to my confusion. JD

Fiona says: Your daughter will probably sense your feelings even though you’ve tried to hide them, so why not just talk to her? I suspect it’s not her you’re having a problem with, but her sexuality - which is just a part of who she is. Increasingly we are beginning to understand that sexuality is more of a spectrum, with some people more in the middle than others.

FFLAG (Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays - fflag.org.uk) supports parents and their gay, lesbian and bisexual sons and daughters.