It is now three years since my husband left me for another woman and although he told everyone soon after that he'd made a mistake, I was so angry I refused to see him.

Eventually, I met someone else and am now in a relationship, as is my husband.

Our divorce is about to come through, but I can't shake the feeling that perhaps I made a mistake.

I know the guy I'm with is nothing serious, but I don't know about my husband's new relationship.

Would it be a stupid thing to contact him and tell him how I feel?

Z. W.

FIONA SAYS: IT'S NATURAL TO BE SAD, BUT YOU SHOULD MOVE ON

If you've refused to have anything to do with your husband for three years, then I don't think you can expect too much from him now.

However, at present, you are still married and so contacting him - if only to clear the air and make a fresh start - would not be a bad thing to do.

You clearly loved him once and he loved you as well, so putting the animosity to rest before you both get on with your lives can only be a positive move.

If he is happy in his current relationship, then stirring up old feelings in him would not be fair. Just contact him and say you'd like to put things straight between the two of you and see how it goes.

You are bound to feel sad as the end of your marriage approaches, but I think, deep down, you realise it may be too late to start the marriage again.

Please be prepared to let go of the past and, if your present relationship isn't working, end it so you can look to a new future.