Life is going nowhere
MY husband is a loveless man who, after 11 years of marriage, shows me little or no consideration and no affection.
If I could, I would leave him, but I have no means of supporting myself.
I am miserable and depressed all the time. My husband controls the money, giving me only enough to run the house.
I have no formal qualifications, other than A-levels. Please help, I feel so trapped. - PT
Fiona says: You would feel more positive and less dependent on your husband if you had your own income - however small.
There are many service industry jobs that require little or no qualifications, for example cleaning or working in shops and restaurants.
I accept that some may not be very fulfilling, but it would give you more independence and confidence, which eventually will give you more choices.
Make a start by using the National Careers Service website (nationalcareersservice.direct.gov.uk/get-a-job) which has a wealth of advice on looking for jobs and how to apply for them.
Is my husband gambling?
MY husband forgot to take his mobile phone to work last week and I spotted that he has a gambling app on it.
I am now worried sick that he is gambling in secret and may be running up huge debts.
I haven’t said anything yet because I don’t know how he will react, especially as we have always been very transparent about things in the past. Should I make an issue of this or just let it slide?
The presence of the app doesn’t mean he has a gambling problem, he may not even be using it.
However, as you have been open with each other in the past, I can see why you might be concerned by what appears to be a secret.
I think your only option is to talk to him and tell him that finding the app worried you, then ask him if there’s a problem.
If he does have a problem, contact Gamanon (www.gamanon.org.uk) for support and advice.
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