Mum in new flat plea for disabled daughter

As Finlay Gray’s daughter Bronwyn has cerebral palsy she has to be carried up and down the steep stairs in the block of flats where they live

As Finlay Gray’s daughter Bronwyn has cerebral palsy she has to be carried up and down the steep stairs in the block of flats where they live

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A YOUNG mother forced to carry her disabled daughter up and down a flight of 26 steps to their flat has spoken of her frustration and powerlessness at being denied a more accessible home by her housing association over the past five months.
 

Finlay Gray’s three-year-old Bronwyn was diagnosed with diplegia five months ago – a form of cerebral palsy which causes muscle-stiffness and prevents her from standing on her legs, walking without support or climbing stairs without experiencing deep pain.
 

Doctors suspected the little girl might be suffering from cerebral palsy eight months ago.

When her condition was finally ascertained, Finlay asked her landlord, Southern Housing Group, to allow her to move from her Peatmoor flat to a ground-floor property better suited to her daughters’ needs.
 

Yet five months on, she has claimed, the housing association has made no effort to help Bronwyn and she has been left with no choice but to carry her child to and from their Peatmoor Village Centre flat before placing her in a pram.
 

“My daughter can’t even walk and if she does after a few minutes she just collapses and cries in pain,” said the 20-year-old. “She used to wear special boots but they didn’t do any good.
 

“Her doctor has said it’s not an acceptable housing situation. There are 26 steps and then we have to walk along a corridor and then go down three more steps to get to our front door.
 

“I have to carry her up the stairs otherwise she is in pain and her legs get very tired.
 

“It breaks my heart to see her like that. We just want a flat where it would be easier to get to our front door.”
 

Finlay recently joined a house-swapping scheme in an attempt to find a more appropriate flat for her and her daughter but has so far been unsuccessful.
She added: “With Southern Housing it has gone in one ear and out the other. When I moved a year and a half ago I didn’t know she had cerebral palsy.
 

Troy Francis, regional director for Southern Housing Group, said the firm would work with partners to find Finlay and Bronwyn a new home but explained the process may take some time.
 

“I’m sorry to hear that Ms Gray feels we have let her down during this difficult time for her and her family,” he said.
“We have been in discussion with her while she awaited diagnosis for her daughter's condition.
 

“Now she has this, we are in a better position to consider the family’s options and to support Ms Gray in finding a solution that will meet their needs. We are arranging a home visit, as part of our housing assessment..
 

“Finding a new home may take some time and will no doubt involve working with other agencies such as the council and health services.”

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2:31pm Sat 5 Apr 14

Amberflame says...

Sounds like the Housing Association are doing what they can. Not sure what else they are expected to do if no suitable accommodation is currently available? We can't always have what we need or want immediately. Life goes on though.
Sounds like the Housing Association are doing what they can. Not sure what else they are expected to do if no suitable accommodation is currently available? We can't always have what we need or want immediately. Life goes on though. Amberflame
  • Score: 5

3:48pm Sat 5 Apr 14

house on the hill says...

Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?
Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father? house on the hill
  • Score: 14

8:50pm Sat 5 Apr 14

Iheartswindonia says...

Yes agreed, the child's father is not mentioned in the article, the sense of entitlement she has, how dare she expect that without divulging details of the dad......I am outraged!!

No details no house, no details no house, no details no....oh you get the point, I think the above comments are ridiculous. The lady has a problem that a organisations charter is to fix, this needs to be fixed and suitable housing found. It's really sad that this story needs to get to this point where the client has to force the company, but what would you do roles reversed? I guess shut up and get a job, find the babies daddy and live happy ever after.
Yes agreed, the child's father is not mentioned in the article, the sense of entitlement she has, how dare she expect that without divulging details of the dad......I am outraged!! No details no house, no details no house, no details no....oh you get the point, I think the above comments are ridiculous. The lady has a problem that a organisations charter is to fix, this needs to be fixed and suitable housing found. It's really sad that this story needs to get to this point where the client has to force the company, but what would you do roles reversed? I guess shut up and get a job, find the babies daddy and live happy ever after. Iheartswindonia
  • Score: -4

11:44pm Sat 5 Apr 14

Simon_m34 says...

house on the hill wrote:
Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?
I see the keyboard warriors are starting to come out the woodwork.You only know her name not her life so you cannot judge her. Its comments like this that just do my head in. She is very thankful for what she has but she didn't realise her daughter had problems or she would of never moved into this flat at the time. She was also still with the babys dad but there relationship broke down however that has nothing to do with you. Her boyfriend now helps to support her and her daughter so as far as sponging off the tax payer she does not need to. She is now a full time carer for her child. Do you know what its like to have a disabled child?. If not keep your comments to yourself. Go get a life yourself and let her and her family live theirs!!!!!
[quote][p][bold]house on the hill[/bold] wrote: Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?[/p][/quote]I see the keyboard warriors are starting to come out the woodwork.You only know her name not her life so you cannot judge her. Its comments like this that just do my head in. She is very thankful for what she has but she didn't realise her daughter had problems or she would of never moved into this flat at the time. She was also still with the babys dad but there relationship broke down however that has nothing to do with you. Her boyfriend now helps to support her and her daughter so as far as sponging off the tax payer she does not need to. She is now a full time carer for her child. Do you know what its like to have a disabled child?. If not keep your comments to yourself. Go get a life yourself and let her and her family live theirs!!!!! Simon_m34
  • Score: 1

12:22am Sun 6 Apr 14

madreeves says...

Agree it must be awful having a disabled child, but why all the tragedy? 26 steps isn't much is it? The child doesn't look too big. She doesn't look like she weighs more than a couple of bags of heavy-ish shopping (which she would have to carry up the stairs). The HA have said they were waiting for a diagnosis before assessing the situation. Unfortunately, they cannot magic a ground floor flat out of nowhere. They have elderly people or adults in wheelchairs that simply cannot be picked up and carried to consider as well. We would all love things to be perfect, but sometimes it takes time - especially if you are expecting someone to just give you something. Going to the press and sounding off in an attempt to force the issue has only painted Miss Gray in a poor light.
Agree it must be awful having a disabled child, but why all the tragedy? 26 steps isn't much is it? The child doesn't look too big. She doesn't look like she weighs more than a couple of bags of heavy-ish shopping (which she would have to carry up the stairs). The HA have said they were waiting for a diagnosis before assessing the situation. Unfortunately, they cannot magic a ground floor flat out of nowhere. They have elderly people or adults in wheelchairs that simply cannot be picked up and carried to consider as well. We would all love things to be perfect, but sometimes it takes time - especially if you are expecting someone to just give you something. Going to the press and sounding off in an attempt to force the issue has only painted Miss Gray in a poor light. madreeves
  • Score: 17

12:31am Sun 6 Apr 14

djbrett says...

Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?
Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father? djbrett
  • Score: 4

12:32am Sun 6 Apr 14

djbrett says...

djbrett wrote:
Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?
right sorry about that it didnt write my comment guys. 2 secs
[quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Yet another one living at the taxpayers expense moaning about how they want more! I am sorry your daughter isn't well, but there are more than a few with bigger problems that you i am sure. Start being a bit more grateful for what you do have instead of always wanting more. And where is the childs father?[/p][/quote]right sorry about that it didnt write my comment guys. 2 secs djbrett
  • Score: -4

12:34am Sun 6 Apr 14

djbrett says...

Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU . djbrett
  • Score: -13

9:09am Sun 6 Apr 14

semitonic says...

djbrett wrote:
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
It looks like you're the one who needs to refrain from making comments.

I just find it astonishing that people who aren't quite getting their own way go running to the Adver for a bit of public sympathy and then complain that the comments aren't 'nice' - what were you expecting ffs?
[quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU .[/p][/quote]It looks like you're the one who needs to refrain from making comments. I just find it astonishing that people who aren't quite getting their own way go running to the Adver for a bit of public sympathy and then complain that the comments aren't 'nice' - what were you expecting ffs? semitonic
  • Score: 15

11:41am Sun 6 Apr 14

The_Differer says...

Some people go running to the the Adver because it is read by the public and they just want the public to know what is going on in their situation, hoping that somebody may help . I find it astonishing that there are still people like you out there that have always got something harmful or negative to say about another persons situation, even though you know nothing of the people or experiences first hand. If you haven't got anything positive to say then why say anything?
Some people go running to the the Adver because it is read by the public and they just want the public to know what is going on in their situation, hoping that somebody may help . I find it astonishing that there are still people like you out there that have always got something harmful or negative to say about another persons situation, even though you know nothing of the people or experiences first hand. If you haven't got anything positive to say then why say anything? The_Differer
  • Score: -5

5:19pm Sun 6 Apr 14

madreeves says...

djbrett wrote:
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter.
[quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU .[/p][/quote]Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter. madreeves
  • Score: 13

12:02am Mon 7 Apr 14

Simon_m34 says...

madreeves wrote:
djbrett wrote:
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter.
Does it make you feel good making fun of someones spelling?. Your comment also "your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much" you are so wrong because now with finlay going to the adver it has helped her even more because finally southern housing have pulled their fingers out to offer fin something more suitable for her daughters needs because thats who finlay has done this for her daughter!!!. Its just a shame there are people like you in this world, But you are just another sad keyboard warrior with nothing better to do. You must have a really sad life
[quote][p][bold]madreeves[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU .[/p][/quote]Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter.[/p][/quote]Does it make you feel good making fun of someones spelling?. Your comment also "your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much" you are so wrong because now with finlay going to the adver it has helped her even more because finally southern housing have pulled their fingers out to offer fin something more suitable for her daughters needs because thats who finlay has done this for her daughter!!!. Its just a shame there are people like you in this world, But you are just another sad keyboard warrior with nothing better to do. You must have a really sad life Simon_m34
  • Score: -6

12:25am Mon 7 Apr 14

madreeves says...

Simon_m34 wrote:
madreeves wrote:
djbrett wrote:
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter.
Does it make you feel good making fun of someones spelling?. Your comment also "your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much" you are so wrong because now with finlay going to the adver it has helped her even more because finally southern housing have pulled their fingers out to offer fin something more suitable for her daughters needs because thats who finlay has done this for her daughter!!!. Its just a shame there are people like you in this world, But you are just another sad keyboard warrior with nothing better to do. You must have a really sad life
Am I boverd though?
[quote][p][bold]Simon_m34[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]madreeves[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU .[/p][/quote]Pardon? You know, your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much. If you don't want negative posts, don't go to the Adver. Sorry evan the dad can't be boverd about his own daughter.[/p][/quote]Does it make you feel good making fun of someones spelling?. Your comment also "your poorly written post hasn't helped your sister's case much" you are so wrong because now with finlay going to the adver it has helped her even more because finally southern housing have pulled their fingers out to offer fin something more suitable for her daughters needs because thats who finlay has done this for her daughter!!!. Its just a shame there are people like you in this world, But you are just another sad keyboard warrior with nothing better to do. You must have a really sad life[/p][/quote]Am I boverd though? madreeves
  • Score: 10

6:51pm Mon 7 Apr 14

knittynora says...

semitonic wrote:
djbrett wrote:
Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM

THANK YOU .
It looks like you're the one who needs to refrain from making comments.

I just find it astonishing that people who aren't quite getting their own way go running to the Adver for a bit of public sympathy and then complain that the comments aren't 'nice' - what were you expecting ffs?
I`m afraid that everyone who needs a bit of help, or whose life doesn't exactly mirror that of the self opinionated egomaniacs who spend their lives posting on this talk board and think that only they are right, is subjected to the same level of abuse that you see here.
These posters don't represent the real people of Swindon. I shouldn't let it worry you. Best of luck to your sister and her child.
[quote][p][bold]semitonic[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]djbrett[/bold] wrote: Just a little wake up call to this comment the the one after that, My sister is doing bloody well as Bronwyn's father is a liability and can't be boverd to pay for his child or evan give a simple call to see how his daughter is doing. The FACT of the matter is my little sister and nece are struggling and you so say tax payers this and that, Have you seen how much it is for Child Minder these days>??. I have carried Bronwyn up them stairs and it's not the most difficult stairs to carry but Bronwyn is 3 she wants to walk up them and do stuff other children do BUT she can't , Evan when my little nephew goes to finlay's he walks up the stairs and poor bronwyn has to be carried. THIS FLAT ISN'T SUITABLE FOR BRONWYN SO TRY KEEP YOUR COMMENTS NICE OR TRY TO RE FRAME FROM LEAVING THEM THANK YOU .[/p][/quote]It looks like you're the one who needs to refrain from making comments. I just find it astonishing that people who aren't quite getting their own way go running to the Adver for a bit of public sympathy and then complain that the comments aren't 'nice' - what were you expecting ffs?[/p][/quote]I`m afraid that everyone who needs a bit of help, or whose life doesn't exactly mirror that of the self opinionated egomaniacs who spend their lives posting on this talk board and think that only they are right, is subjected to the same level of abuse that you see here. These posters don't represent the real people of Swindon. I shouldn't let it worry you. Best of luck to your sister and her child. knittynora
  • Score: 1

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