Grief as grave of girl gets covered with soil

Jamie and Denice Scanlon are upset with workers at the Kingsdown crematorium who have covered their child’s grave in mud

Jamie and Denice Scanlon are upset with workers at the Kingsdown crematorium who have covered their child’s grave in mud

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JAMIE Scanlon could not believe his eyes when he found his daughter’s grave piled high with soil.

The 32-year-old from Rodbourne was making his regular visit to the grave of his daughter, schoolgirl Charley May Drewett Scanlon, at Kingsdown Crematorium to find it heaped with soil from the neighbouring plot.

The soil completely obscured the 14-year-old’s grave while another family buried their loved one, despite there being plenty of unused ground behind the row of plots to discard the earth.

All the tributes, flowers and ornaments had been discarded nearby, and left beside Charley’s grave once the neighbouring plot had been filled.

Jamie said: “I couldn’t see where she was buried because they had heaped it all on top of her.

“I came up here to see my daughter and I could see that there was a funeral taking place so I walked along the graves about two rows up so I could go around and not disturb them. But then I realised I had walked too far. And then I realised they had put all the mud from the other grave right on top of her.

“It wouldn’t have mattered if they had put it next to her grave, and there was loads of room behind it as well.

“They then didn’t even put back her things nicely, they just left them next to her grave.”

Swindon Advertiser:

Charley May Drewett Scanlon’s grave dirtied by a huge pile of soil

Charley, who attended Dorcan Academy, died in January following complications with her life-long battle with congenital adrenal hyperplasia, a disease which can alter the development of sexual characteristics as a result of the excessive or deficient production of steroids in the body.

For Charley, it meant that she had to undergo numerous operations and take daily medications in order to handle the disease, which often left her vulnerable to infections.

Charley was rushed to Great Western Hospital where staff tried to help her body fight the infection, but sadly she lost her battle and died on January 13.

When mum Claire Eddolls and grandmother Denice Scanlon heard that the soil had been heaped up onto Charley’s grave they were distraught.

Denice, 51, from Meadowcroft, who visits the grave most days, said: “Sometimes I feel like I don’t want her to be on her own.

“Sometimes I think she is still going to walk into the room. I miss her so much.

“What they did is so disrespectful. My son Jamie was so upset.

“I don’t want it to happen to anyone else.”

Swindon Council spokesman Kevin Burchall said: “We sympathise with the family concerned but unfortunately Kingsdown has regular burials and, due to the nature of the cemetery, it is sometimes necessary for ground staff to temporarily move items off nearby graves to allow them to access new plots, which is explained in our rules and regulations.

“Our staff are very respectful and always try to ensure that plots are left as undisturbed as possible.”

Since Charley’s funeral the family have been working hard to raise the money for the £4,000 headstone.

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7:18am Mon 19 May 14

Oldswindonian says...

Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual.
Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual. Oldswindonian
  • Score: -22

8:53am Mon 19 May 14

Davey Gravey says...

Oldswindonian wrote:
Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual.
Have a heart you moron.
[quote][p][bold]Oldswindonian[/bold] wrote: Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual.[/p][/quote]Have a heart you moron. Davey Gravey
  • Score: 34

9:49am Mon 19 May 14

Chrisg46 says...

Using someone else's grave as a dumping ground for earth should only happen if there is literally no other room, and then every action taken to restore it to its original condition - leaving the flowers, mementoes etc scattered aside is extremely disrespectful.
Using someone else's grave as a dumping ground for earth should only happen if there is literally no other room, and then every action taken to restore it to its original condition - leaving the flowers, mementoes etc scattered aside is extremely disrespectful. Chrisg46
  • Score: 25

10:24am Mon 19 May 14

swindondad says...

Chrisg46 wrote:
Using someone else's grave as a dumping ground for earth should only happen if there is literally no other room, and then every action taken to restore it to its original condition - leaving the flowers, mementoes etc scattered aside is extremely disrespectful.
I agree,

How hard would it have been (if there was no other space) to have taken a picture of the tributes before the excavation of the neighboring grave and put things back after the internment had taken place.
[quote][p][bold]Chrisg46[/bold] wrote: Using someone else's grave as a dumping ground for earth should only happen if there is literally no other room, and then every action taken to restore it to its original condition - leaving the flowers, mementoes etc scattered aside is extremely disrespectful.[/p][/quote]I agree, How hard would it have been (if there was no other space) to have taken a picture of the tributes before the excavation of the neighboring grave and put things back after the internment had taken place. swindondad
  • Score: 20

10:33am Mon 19 May 14

umpcah says...

“Our staff are very respectful and always try to ensure that plots are left as undisturbed as possible.” Eh ? This episode is hardly compatible with that statement ! There are bound to be problems with surplus soil during transitional times but not to this extent surely ? Someone needs his arse kicked i.m.o.
“Our staff are very respectful and always try to ensure that plots are left as undisturbed as possible.” Eh ? This episode is hardly compatible with that statement ! There are bound to be problems with surplus soil during transitional times but not to this extent surely ? Someone needs his arse kicked i.m.o. umpcah
  • Score: 15

11:14am Mon 19 May 14

fuzzey says...

Very sorry indeed for the family.They can take solace from the beautiful advertiser picture of their daughters grave .
Very sorry indeed for the family.They can take solace from the beautiful advertiser picture of their daughters grave . fuzzey
  • Score: 7

12:40pm Mon 19 May 14

ceddolls says...

I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting!
I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting! ceddolls
  • Score: 15

1:41pm Mon 19 May 14

eldenelovely says...

ceddolls wrote:
I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting!
Where is the empathy of the Crem staff? this is so wrong and im quite upset by this post, they have no heart!!! The crematorium is a place or rest, somewhere we can go to remember good times, and not be upset by the staff incompetency's. for me an apologies wouldn't be enough this is disgusting!!!!
[quote][p][bold]ceddolls[/bold] wrote: I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting![/p][/quote]Where is the empathy of the Crem staff? this is so wrong and im quite upset by this post, they have no heart!!! The crematorium is a place or rest, somewhere we can go to remember good times, and not be upset by the staff incompetency's. for me an apologies wouldn't be enough this is disgusting!!!! eldenelovely
  • Score: 8

8:04pm Mon 19 May 14

mortjsn says...

I too had this problem. I turned up one afternoon to find exactly the same thing. The digger had slid into my husband's grave and turned the whole grave upside down, all of the plants were ripped up by the digger's tracks and when I complained to the crematorium staff one of the grave digger's gave us verbal abuse. Everything was just left for me to find. I too was extremely upset by what I found. I am very sorry to hear that the same thing has happened to you.
I too had this problem. I turned up one afternoon to find exactly the same thing. The digger had slid into my husband's grave and turned the whole grave upside down, all of the plants were ripped up by the digger's tracks and when I complained to the crematorium staff one of the grave digger's gave us verbal abuse. Everything was just left for me to find. I too was extremely upset by what I found. I am very sorry to hear that the same thing has happened to you. mortjsn
  • Score: 3

8:09pm Mon 19 May 14

mortjsn says...

I too had this problem. I turned up one afternoon to visit my husband's grave and I found exactly the same thing. I also had digger tracks which had turned the top of the grave where I had plants. They were all pulled out of the ground and just laying on top with my pots. When I complained to the crematorium staff I didn't find them very sympathetic and one of the grave diggers became abusive and denied the whole incident. I am very sorry to hear that you had the same problem, I know how upset I was to arrive and find my husband's grave in such a mess.
I too had this problem. I turned up one afternoon to visit my husband's grave and I found exactly the same thing. I also had digger tracks which had turned the top of the grave where I had plants. They were all pulled out of the ground and just laying on top with my pots. When I complained to the crematorium staff I didn't find them very sympathetic and one of the grave diggers became abusive and denied the whole incident. I am very sorry to hear that you had the same problem, I know how upset I was to arrive and find my husband's grave in such a mess. mortjsn
  • Score: 1

10:53pm Mon 19 May 14

Lknowles1978 says...

I really feel for this girls family, the worst thing that can happen is to turn up at the grave where your loves one is and it's been tampered with or soil put in it or your things moved or taken away. I had nothing but heartache from kingsdown ever since 2007 when my dad was laid to rest there and because of all there stupid rules and regs you can't personalize the grave. But it's fine for them to do this!!! It's disgusting. And heartbreaking for the family that turn up to see how disrespectful they have been. There's still plenty of other places they could put the soil for now . I wish I knew how it was up there because I moved my dad from London to be buried here and I regret ever choosing kingsdown
I really feel for this girls family, the worst thing that can happen is to turn up at the grave where your loves one is and it's been tampered with or soil put in it or your things moved or taken away. I had nothing but heartache from kingsdown ever since 2007 when my dad was laid to rest there and because of all there stupid rules and regs you can't personalize the grave. But it's fine for them to do this!!! It's disgusting. And heartbreaking for the family that turn up to see how disrespectful they have been. There's still plenty of other places they could put the soil for now . I wish I knew how it was up there because I moved my dad from London to be buried here and I regret ever choosing kingsdown Lknowles1978
  • Score: 1

9:43pm Tue 20 May 14

debsere says...

ceddolls wrote:
I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting!
I couldn't even imagine what that was like for you and your family. And you are absolutely right when you say it's disgusting. I can't believe that this is even aloud to happen. No parent should lose a child. But to be treated so disrespectful is criminal. xxx
[quote][p][bold]ceddolls[/bold] wrote: I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting![/p][/quote]I couldn't even imagine what that was like for you and your family. And you are absolutely right when you say it's disgusting. I can't believe that this is even aloud to happen. No parent should lose a child. But to be treated so disrespectful is criminal. xxx debsere
  • Score: 5

9:50pm Tue 20 May 14

debsere says...

ceddolls wrote:
I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting!
Absolutely, I would be heart broken if that was one of my children. I cannot believe how heartless these people are. I'm sure they would take special care if it was one of their children. I feel so bad for you that you have had to go through this. I hope you and your family can look past the comment that first idiot made and know that just about all of us are with you on this. xx
[quote][p][bold]ceddolls[/bold] wrote: I am absolutely disgusted how anyone could actually think this was ok, i am charleys mum and to go visit her and see just a pile of mud was heartbreaking, until you are in that situation you will never know what its like so please just have a little respect.. i wanted to visit my daughter as that is all i have left of her but instead we got a pile of muck.. i would understand if there was nowhere else to put it but there was, there was plenty of room.. absolutely disgusting![/p][/quote]Absolutely, I would be heart broken if that was one of my children. I cannot believe how heartless these people are. I'm sure they would take special care if it was one of their children. I feel so bad for you that you have had to go through this. I hope you and your family can look past the comment that first idiot made and know that just about all of us are with you on this. xx debsere
  • Score: 4

9:54pm Tue 20 May 14

debsere says...

Oldswindonian wrote:
Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual.
Disgusting! You should be ashamed of yourself. That is somebody's child you are talking about. How is that a load of nonsense?.
[quote][p][bold]Oldswindonian[/bold] wrote: Its a working cemetery and most of us who have been bereaved are aware of that and of the fact that people are buried next to our grave causing some small and temporary disruption which is soon put right. Its probably a daily occurance so perhaps the Adver could station a permanent photographer there at Kingsdown. A load of nonsense as usual.[/p][/quote]Disgusting! You should be ashamed of yourself. That is somebody's child you are talking about. How is that a load of nonsense?. debsere
  • Score: 5

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