I can’t get over cheat

MY boyfriend and I spilt up three months ago when I found out he had been cheating on me for the past three years.

I thought he loved me as much as I loved him, but once we had spilt I realised he had really been using me as a doormat.

All my friends tell me I am better off without him and I have even been out a few times with other guys. So why do I still feel so cut up about losing him?

I can’t seem to get him out of my mind, and I’m sure my friends think I am crazy for still feeling this way. A. L.

Fiona says: You’re being a bit hard on yourself if you think you can just write off three years’ worth of feelings for someone.

Although his feelings for you may not have been reciprocated, you clearly cared deeply for him and that’s not easily shrugged off overnight.

Give yourself a bit more time to come to terms with the change in your life.

Don’t try and dash straight into another relationship, instead have some fun and find time do some of those things that you’ve always wanted to do.

How do I get rid of thrush?

I’ve been getting treatment for thrush over and over again but it keeps coming back.

I have tried various over the counter treatments, yogurt and all kinds of things, but it keeps coming back.

I’ve switched to cotton underwear, stockings instead of tights, skirts instead of trousers and it doesn’t make any difference.

My husband is getting really fed up because we have to avoid sex when I’ve got it, and then just comes back again. What can I do?  EC.

Fiona says: Obviously I’m not a doctor and so can’t say for sure, but there is a small possibility that your husband is re-infecting you.

Although thrush is a yeast infection, not a sexually transmitted one, it can be triggered by sex, and sometimes passed on during intercourse too.

Your husband may not be showing symptoms, but could still be carrying the condition.

I strongly advise you see your GP and you may like to read Coping With Candida by Shirley Trickett.